The Cheng's Recent Updates (Nov-Dec)

Greetings to our dear friends,

As we enter the month of December, we know that Christmas is near! This year has been really exciting and blessed for us -- our second daughter, Eliana, was born in August! In the past 4 months, we have been adjusting to our new roles and developing new family dynamics. Thanks to our beloved parents who have helped a great deal physically and emotionally throughout these months. We shall continue to work hard to be good parents of Abby and Elly.

Elly is a contented and cheerful little girl, and has brought us lots of joy and heartwarming moments. She seems to be a sociable kind of girl like her big sister, who loves to coo and smile back to others! Whenever she has company and attention, she can be very satisfied and happy. We all love her more and more day by day!

Abby has been a great big sister to Elly! She loves to talk to her, entertain her when Elly seems bored, and comfort her when Elly cries. Abby herself has reached a lot of milestones in the past year and has been speaking much more clearly. As she started going to preschool in September, her comprehension of English has been coming along well! We are so amazed at the fact that she is such a big girl now.

Philip has almost finished the first term of his second year at Regent College. During this past year, he has gone through a period of searching for God's will in his future vocation, which is extremely important in this journey with God. With prayers and signs from God, he decided to switch from MDiv to MCS program, which means we shall be staying for 1.5 years more in Vancouver, instead of 2.5 years more. It was revealed to him that children ministry would be something that he will spend much of his time to engage in. We thank God for this transformational process in helping us to know His plans with us.

This Christmas will be an exciting time for us, as we will be back to Hong Kong for 2.5 weeks! The main purpose is attending the Baby Dedication of Elly in our home church. We are so excited to be able to dedicate our daughter with 6 other kids from our same cell-group members! We are also excited about being able to meet with some of you in Hong Kong!

The Christmas story is a visitation story of God. He came not to judge us but bring us life!
May you be blessed by our God's love and wish your Christmas will be a warm and cheerful one!

Love from Connie, Philip, Abby and Elly

我心內的敗犬呼喊

The theme of the recent sermon series is "The wholeness of life". It touches on one important issue the unmarried Christians (singles) are easily misled nowadays: Singleness is less than truly human.

I am grateful to hear from the pulpit that the wholeness of life is to live a Christ-centered life (click for a revision). The biblical teachings never defined a person in terms of being married or not. What an important truth that is easily forgotten nowadays!!

Yet even among our congregation, I confess it is easy to be insensitive to brothers or sisters who are struggling with "being single". Our un-intentional words/gestures/actions may like salt sprinkling on the wound. As I reflect more on such struggles, I acknowledge it's not easy to go through the mixed emotions of being lonely, shameful, and regretful. The dynamics of loniness and yearning for intimacy play an important mood factor within. The feelings are so real to my past experience.

I notice a process of grieving should be involved in order for one to move on. The video made by the Art Dep (Click to view) well triggered the frustration one may face. I recall my own frustrations that overwhelmed me years ago that I found myself indulged in pornography and masturbation. Only when I realize the notion behind was about longing and intimacy, then I begin to see my real needs. Man, thank God for such a gracious revelation back in my days of struggle. It helped me to go through the grieving process quicker.

The recent Pastoral Care class on sexuality echoed with this sermon series. I was deeply touched by identifying the needs behind the issue:

A brief note from the lecture:
On Longing…a longing of intimacy with God…all our longings are symptomatic to our longing for God…if it’s not fulfilled, we will put expectations on other longings; and often the expectation is so much that you can’t be satisfied.

On Intimacy…we were made into intimacy…not just relationship, but also sharing of our inner selves…a quest to connect with right intimate relationships:
Relationship with creation / relationship with self / relationship with others / relationship with God

But twisted…e.g. longing for the relationship with creation becomes Mother Earth…‘Mother Earth’ (We should called it ‘sister’ or ‘brother’ earth instead ^_^)

Even now after getting married, I understand that the yearning for intimacy and longing is still present. Yet I thank God for giving me the chance for experiencing true relief in Him. For the past term at Regent, I see the reality of brokenness from sin, the grace that God has been showing, and the wholeness of life that can only be found in Jesus alone.


In practice, I'm learning to be intimate with God. Moreover, I'm learning how to be relational with others. I guess it takes my whole life to learn and experience well. I wish that WE can go further together.

從鬼王節到天堂門: A One-of-a-kind Halloween Party

This year, we had a one-of-a-kind Halloween this year in Vancouver.

How it all happened......
One October morning, I heard from the Chinese radio broadcasting about the coming of Halloween...in fact, I was surprised to hear the way Chinese people call it here: 鬼王節
Isn't it called 萬聖節 in HK? What's going on?

In fact, I had been wrong for a long time. Oct 31 was really a pagan festival. People used to believe a lord of death who sends evil spirits into animals to trick people; so people wore disguise to escape them and got involved with cruel ceremonies. That's why I hear the Chinese name 鬼王節 here. In contrast, historically, Christians attempted to change the event into a festival of joy. Nov 1 became ‘All Saints’ Day’ to remember the dead whom we love. Oct 31 then became ‘All Hallows’ Eve’. 萬聖節 (All holies / all the saints) In HK, 鬼王節 is packaged as 萬聖節 for commercial purposes.

This year, we had a chance to see something different.
Thanks to Oyan, my buddy at Regent, for inviting my family to an event held by his church on Halloween. We made a visit to heaven!! ^_^ Please take a look at the album, and you'll have a glimpse of our experience (Click me). The night was filled with one-of-a-kind activities that let us see the reality--Jesus is Lord.

Back in HK, we would see Halloween as a really commercialized event. In a spiritual sense, I even think of it as a connection with the evil spirits. Thank God for giving me a new perspective to see Halloween.

Reflection:
Does heaven look like this? The setting of this party may seem a bit Platonic and may not seem theologically/biblically 'right'. Yet I appreciate the thoughts behind this event. Historically, Christians have been countering culture by ‘reframing’ it with Christian’s perspectives. How can one respond to our culture nowadays? I would say this is all about how we can reframe it, like what we do in a pagan funeral / Ching Ming Festival. Instead of offering incense, we can pray for the family or have a moment of silence.

With our children, we can surely remember our loved ones who are actually alive with Jesus. Being thankful for God’s grace to our family/friends, we can take this opportunity to celebrate with our kids.

Other Christian groups (e.g. Lutheran) take this opportunity to tell the reformation story. They’d invite children and families to church to celebrate about their history.

What a great way to witness together as a community!

靚仔爸B

今晚飯後一家在看電視劇「與敵同行」，突然阿比望著螢幕的鄭嘉穎說：「好似爸B，叔叔。」我正為此會心微笑時，阿比媽媽再追問我們什麼相似，原來鄭嘉穎當時和我一樣正穿著一件背心……我似鄭嘉穎，就此而已！~_~
阿比媽媽還提起阿比以前話我似火車站廣告的陳豪，會否正正只是陳豪在廣告中的禿頭look，唉……阿比的觀察力真獨特！

Fall...short

Got so much that I would like to jot down to share with you...reflections from my everyday life. Although there's just so little time......I still want to make an opportunity to remember the beauty and blessings which we may easily overlook everyday.

To see more photos, CLICK ME!

Pilot View of an autopiloted train

Isn't such a view fascinating? I feel like riding on a roller coaster! In fact I was riding the newly opened Skytrain Canada Line, which goes from Downtown Vancouver (Waterfront) to Richmond and the airport. It reminds me of the Ma On Shan Line I used to take in Hong Kong. The big differences are: 1) Now I can see a wonderful view at the front. 2)There is actually NO driver. The trains are autopiloted indeed. How efficient and amazing!

ps: One more big difference than the railway in Hong Kong: People just have to honestly purchase their fare, and then they can head to the platform without passing any gates at the entance/exit. With a bus pass, it's a real convenient way for me to get on a train! ^_^

More photos of the trip are available on my facebook album:

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=116454&id=516726454&l=5183b3126a

Abby's first pre-school experience

Abby had her first day of pre-school yesterday. Her school is nearby with a 10 min. walking distance. What a great exercise opportunity for post-labour Connie!! ^_^ Abby's school features the Montessori teaching method, which allows individuals to learn according to one's own pace. Connie and I hope that Abby can learn well step by step. Located at the basement of a church, her school is not a big one, with only 1 classroom. Yes, a classroom at the basement...But surprisingly, it is a large well-lit and well-equipped classroom indeed.

With limited English vocabulary, off she went. In fact, she enjoyed her first school day with 7 other kids, learning new songs, painting, and making crafts. Her teachers made compliments of her participation and we're glad for their positive feedbacks. May Abby enjoy learning and making friends at school in the months along.

飛天魚！！

今晚正當阿比爸爸在YouTube看一個關於世界第二大的水簇館（日本沖繩）的Video時…

阿比爸爸：Abby來看看這些魚魚，好大好靚的！
阿比：天有魚魚？

以下就是這個壯麗的畫面，令阿比有如此的想法。期待日後帶女兒到美麗的水簇館欣賞上主創造的偉大。（公公婆婆，在溫哥華也有一個Aquarium，你們來到時我們一起去看看啦！Thank you Denis for sharing this video! ^_^）

雙喜 Double Happiness Double Blessings

昨日是我的牛一。今年比去年更特別，因有Elly和我媽咪一起度過，更有Elly的歡迎會慶祝這一天。昨日一早起來送上一扎花給我媽咪，多謝她。Abby的一番說話又再令我們一家發笑。
阿比爸爸：嬤嬤，我愛你。
阿比：（自信又帶點嬌俏地）唔係嬤嬤，係媽咪！
將來Abby對稱呼親人關係的能力可能跟阿比媽媽一樣，更勝我一籌。

好感謝天父，今年有教會的弟兄姊妹，共九個家庭來為Elly慶賀她的滿月。感恩的是天氣預測已知道當天會下雨，起初還想過要取消昨日的活動（因原打算在後園舉行），但幸得慷慨的屋主支持，讓我們使用他們家偌大的開放式廚房及客廳來招呼到來的大小朋友。像領養阿比時為她舉行的歡迎會一樣，有美食、小遊戲、分享、祈禱、以及朋友及家人的祝福。願他日Elly能透過相片記下的歡樂來感受弟兄姊妹（哪怕到時像Ivan所說，那些uncle auntie已變成公公婆婆！）對我們一家的愛。

多謝老婆細心的預備蛋糕。^_^

New School Term: Prologue

There're two more weeks before Year 2 starts. Am I ready? I've ordered/bought most of the books needed for the school term. After checking the syllabus of the upcoming four courses (Biblical Exegesis, Hermeneutics, Pastoral Care, and Introduction to Christian Counselling), I felt a bit stressed about the upcoming workload. Still, after studying a year of foundation courses, I'm looking forward to these Year 2 courses, especially Exegesis, because I really wish to learn how to read/understand the bible well. I've made a glimpse of its textbooks, and I'm loving them!

During summer, I have the opportunity to review my financial and vocation issues. With our current financial status, we'll be able to stay for one more school year. Various plans have swung back and forth in my mind to cope with the reality. Once again I need to ask myself why I am here and the goal for this education. I recall from the beginning that I've never been called as a minister/pastor, though in school I have developed more sensitivity of a pastoral soul. Yet, my promise of going back to teach at APS would eventually lead me to focus on children ministry in a primary school setting. I always see it as a wonderful ministry: a great setting to tell God's good news to my students through fellowship, assemblies, and graduation camp; in a class setting, there are more opportunity to systematically teach about the bible and spiritual practice to the young kids, building a firm foundation of faith since their young age; we can reach out to their parents through parental support group; more importantly, with a united heart in serving in school, I'm not working alone but with great commrades of fellow staff and teachers; I see this service in school is as important as the service in a "church" setting.

Now my concern is: Am I "qualify" to serve in a school setting without a master degree? I should have better communicated this concern with my principle before leaving. I do treasure the MDiv program as I really like this comprehensive and systematic study of Christian faith and practice. However, if I cannot complete the program as planned, I still have no regret. As I'm thankful that this learning experience here at Regent has opened my mind in further pursuing growth in knowledge and maturity. It won't be accomplished with a 4-year program but would take a whole lifetime. I'm thankful that I now have a better glimpse of what books I should be reading in the future. For example, books on history, spirituality, biblical studies, and more...would a DipCS be qualify to take up a ministry position at APS? I would need to find out.

With this struggle, my fear came along. I thought that I would not be able to serve God well, whether in church or in school. It all stems from a harsh self-examination. I became confused about my character. I find myself so much shortfalls to become a mature and skillful person. I lost confidence in strengths/talents and I see myself better to be content of being a plain ordinary person. There were times that I would want to retreat everything back into my past (comfort zone).

Today, as I was reading the textbook of Pastoral Care class (The Crucifixion of Ministry, by Andrew Purves), I was struck by a passage:

"Ministers can't forgive sinners, raise the dead or bring in the kingdom of God. Neither can we grow congregations, convert sinners or heal the dying......has taught me that Jesus has to show up and do what he has promised to do......I was suddenly aware that our attempt to be effective ministers is a major problem. We are in the way. Our strategies, action plans, pastoral resources and entrepreneurial church revitalization techniques have become not the solution but the problem. Our ministries need to be crucified. They need to be killed off."

I echoe with the above passage as it points to the problem of my fear--I had a wrong attitude that focuses too much of myself rather than my Lord Jesus. May my attitudes be fine tuned before the beginning of Year 2, and bring me back on a right track of ministry in the future.

Today could have been Eliana's birthday

Today is such a day to remember. It's Eliana's expected due date!! Indeed, Eliana has been with us for more than 2 weeks now. To us, these days were mixed with excitement and confusion, joy and pain, great satisfaction and tiresome nights.

Today, I wish to take this opportunity to count our blessings:

Thank God for a healthy, beautiful daughter. The delivery was safe despite of a little complication. The timing was amazing. If it were happened the night before, we would not be able to reach St. Paul Hospital due to the jam-packed road on a firework show evening. If it were happened during the day, we would be stuck too due to the downtown parade.

Thank God for giving Eliana a quiet soul. She is a sound sleeper, and only cries in 3 cases--when she is hungry, need a cuddle, or a soiled diaper. She's an automated alarm, reminding us to feed her every 2-3 hours.

Thank God for arranging a great midwife service for us. We've been well supported and cared by Heidi and Saras, whether before, during, and after the delivery.

Thank God for a completion of the intensive Greek course (the so-called 'Suicidal Greek') With the support from my teacher and commrades, I was able to finish it well.

Thank God for having my mom over to take care of our daily needs. Mom has helped a lot in Connie's quick recovery.

Thanks to all our friends and families for loving us, whether from Hong Kong, Vancouver, or other parts of the world. Thank you for the prayers, blessings, and gifts.

I invite you to celebrate with us. Enjoy Eliana's photo album.

BB 出世了

好消息！
BB 出世了！竟然是女！（之前看過Connie肚的形狀的人， 99%的都猜會是仔！） Connie 和我其實都好開心是女！她名字是鄭允兒--天父應允禱告而生的女兒，英文是Eliana，是希伯來名，意思也是God answers 。

八月二日晚六時許Connie便大大的感到作動，在midwife助產士到達時Connie的子宮頸已在很短的時間內開了九度！連助產士也嚇了一跳！，為安全起見我們不能再駕車去醫院而叫了救護車。經過了3小時的pushing後BB還未出到來，midwife和醫生認為是因為BB面向了天，令他出來有困難。醫生建議用forceps鉗子幫他轉身。就這樣，醫生一邊幫他轉身，Connie一邊push，在八月三日凌晨3:54，BB出世了！

感謝神，小B十分健康，出生時體重也有大概六磅半；她在出世的時候已長滿黑黑的頭髮，樣子又標致可愛，極像小時候的Connie。

因Connie的傷口較大而失了不少血，我們留了在醫院3日，到八月五日才回來。這幾天我們十分累，特別是因為那天晚上「通頂」了一晚，然後小B每2-3小時便會醒來吃奶一次，我們確實需要時間適應新的生活作息規律。感恩的是小B很乖，餓了才會哭，吃完奶後她便會安睡3小時，而我們也把握這個時段休息片刻。有趣的是她像一個活鬧鐘，很準時的便會醒來著我們餵她。另外，我媽媽從多倫多來幫助我們，為我們分擔了很多擔子，教我們不用擔心每天三餐外，更每天為我們炮製補身的湯水，我們實在是感激不盡的。

對Connie來說，休養好身體固然是重要，可是卻被各種挑戰包圍著。學習餵人奶的她由沒有奶到現在已「上奶」，但仍要承受乳頭及乳房的痛；另外生產時因用鉗子造成的 3rd degree tear 傷口；再加上身體的賀爾蒙轉變，她身心默默承受的痛畢竟不是我可以輕易明白的。我只願可以學習支持她、為她打氣。請大家亦在禱告中記念她。而我的暑期密集課還有一星期才完結，小B提早出世確實影響我原先的計劃，但沒法子了，that's life。希望可以快快的以新的讀書模式完成課程，成績未必會最理想，但我只願好好完成最後的階段。

回家後要記掛的不只小B，還有要顧及阿比家姐的適應。除了照顧小B，我和Connie當然沒有忘記阿比的需要，我們比平日更多的攬著她，與她傾談，我們相信無論是領養與否，有兩個小朋友的家庭都要處理爭寵的可能性，我們希望阿比知道我們十分愛她，沒有「大細超」！她在我們住院時有嬤嬤照顧，但分離確實對她的情緒有影響。我們回家的第一天她便嘗試多要我們的注意，我們亦讓她大哭了一場，她的情緒發出後我們便安慰她、堅定的向她說我們愛她。希望阿比時刻的體會我們的心意。其實阿比確實很愛護小B，時常嚷著要抱她、甚至她更掀起她的衣服說要餵她「奶奶」！她是個好家姐！

小B很可愛，尤其是在吃奶過後那安舒的神情最令我歡喜，我很享受抱她在懷中的那份感覺。我在網上也放了不少她的相片，有空也上來看看她啦！

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=106732&id=516726454&l=ca0e1faa25

Abby's Reality Show

Take a glimpse of what Abby Mommy was describing in her post about Abby's recent tantrum. (You can actually click on the photo to see it better.) I guess the reactions and looks shown on our faces speak louder than our words.
We surely need more wisdom and love to understand Abby.

Playwright--Abby
Cast--Villain: Abby
Supporting Cast--Protagonist: Abby Daddy, Abby Mommy; Antagonist: Grandma
Cinematographer: Grandpa
Plot--Protagonist: Promote healthy eating habits...but unsuccessful. ~_~

Facebook friends can click on this link to see the photo: http://ubaubaabbydaddy.blogspot.com/2009/07/abbys-reality-show.html

Showers of Blessings

This month God has poured to our family showers of blessings through our beloved friends and families around us. Many have sent us encouragement, and offering us support financially and in prayers. We even received a cheque from someone we've never met before, who read our blogs and being moved by God. We are so moved and encouraged that we know God is faithful. Here I want to give my special thanks to Rachel, Joyce & Ah Dee, Wing Chi and other APS buddies for your continual support, not to mention my beloved brother and sister-in-law, my parents and parents-in-law. You have blessed us in so many ways! ^_^ I'll continue to work hard as a faithful steward of God.

My summer intensive Greek course has started. Now week 2 is over and I'm glad that I survive. I find this course really wonderful as I can really focus in learning this language bit by bit (actually chunk by chunk in terms of materials being covered) The advantage of this intensive course is that it gives me the focus to learn the language with discipline. But we're being pushed to the limit by having quizzes everyday and an exam each week. I'm amazed how much I've learned now as I can start reading simple Greek sentenses. It's fun! But my rhythm has also been greatly affected and I'm finding a balance of work and rest now. I would go to bed by midnight and get up to study at around five o'clock in the morning. I find this the best time to read and study alone. Of course I'll get pretty tired during my class from 8:30-1:00, but I would also take a nap in the afternoon. I'm glad that most Fridays are off and that's why I can take a break to write this blog. ^_^ I pray that I can finish this course well.

THERE ARE TWO OTHER GREAT NEWS:
1) We received the letter from the immigration finally! And we're now entitled to apply for MSP (medical coverage for us) We'll be looking forward to hear from the MSP office about our application and we pray that Connie can give birth with the MSP coverage.

2) My parents are over in Vancouver from Toronto. I've longed for this long-lost moment to spend time with each other. I'm learning how to treat my parents well. (honestly, I've not been doing a great job...really need to keep learning and shaping)

I'm quite sleepy now...gotta head to the bed. Good nite ^_^

阿比的第一滴「血」 Abby's First Blood

阿比幾天前發生了一宗意外！看到阿比由眼角至嘴角都流下這記號，她「呀」的一聲把我嚇了一跳！原來是阿比吃雪糕時留下的，真不知她怎樣弄得這個樣子的！？我亦把握這個珍貴機會，連忙拿出相機為她拍照。我著她擺出不同的造型，阿比也做得唯肖唯妙！

估不到阿比的第一滴「血」事件昨晚竟再發生成阿比的第一「pat」血！今次同樣是因為吃雪糕引起；事緣昨晚我們正看電影「耶穌傳」的最後一幕--耶穌升天。當時畫面是耶穌第一身在天上向下面的門徒望，鏡頭緩緩的拉遠去，我舉手向阿比解釋耶穌升天，當我再望著電視畫面後不久便傳來阿比的大哭聲，在柔弱的燈光中我見到的是阿比整個面上都是「血」！我打了一頓，再望真些才明白這全是她的雪糕！在為她善後時，我想起她必定是當她手拿著碗子在模仿我舉手時拿不穩，然後滿碗雪糕便傾頭淋在她面上！滿臉是雪糕的景況你試過嗎？阿比想必是受不了那刺臉的凍氣以至驚哭起來。

當時阿比媽媽在弄飯，我再講述與她事發的過程也著她笑得破肚皮！

阿比，你真為我們帶來不少「驚喜」！

Can't resist these berries

6 pounds of strawberry + family fun + farm experience + creation encounter + a wonderful shady weather = $??? (answer at the end of the posting)

Thanks to the sound therapies again for allowing us to notice signs of strawberry farms as we drove to the clinic. Today we had a relaxing day out picking strawberries. When we arrived at the farm, we noticed that fresh smell of strawberries filled the air. This is our first experience in picking strawberries (we picked blueberries last year when we first arrived) We all find this a fun experience. To 8-month-pregnant Connie, this strawberry picking experience provided her a great opportunity to exercise squatting. ^_^ To Abby, you can tell she really enjoyed picking with her own hands (though she finds it quite diffictult and ends up helping us placing the berries in the container). To me, I was marveling at God's creation and providence for us. A thought came by when I recalled a recent discussion with my schoolmate about a Regent course on food, farming, community, hospitality, and creation. I feel more responsible to do things right to care for God's creation through supporting the local community. So when we pick strawberries here, we would also help supporting our local farming communities.

How are the strawberries? ....mmm....YumYum!!! ^_^

Have you figured out the price afterall? Only $8.45 CAD!!! ^_^

ps: Next time, I should remember to bring a bottle of water + paper towel to wash the berries, so that I can eat them as I pick!!! ^_^

A new experience in our adoption story

We've a breakthrough in walking with Abby along her adoption struggles this week. Thanks to our loving clinical psychologist Dr. Jack Young, Abby has been treated with sound therapy lately to deal with her unconcious anxiety / hidden emotional issues. After listening to a course of classical music with bone conducting stimulation, Abby has exhibited some reactions to the music during the sessions. At the early phase of the therapy, she has developped a longer span of concentration listening to the music (each session usually lasts an hour). But a special twist was made in the last session, then she began to show refusal in listening to the music after 15 minutes. We were encouraged to ask Abby her feelings towards the music. To our surprise, she could tell us that she was feeling sad and angry about the music. Her emotions were stirred due to the music!!

At home, we tried to find out the trigger. We chatted with Abby with the use of her albums. We went through photos of events that took place since her stay with the foster home (as early as her 2nd-month after birth) Abby showed no distress until we showed her the baby book we made for her, which was beautifully made by Connie that has photos and details of her early life. We asked Abby about the one-and-only-one photo of her birth parents. She told us that she felt sad when she saw the photo. She also related the music she heard at the therapy to them. She particularly told us that she's angry with her birth dad. WE WERE AMAZED!!

Today when Abby went through the sound therapy again, the same reactions occured and her emotions were triggered. I asked her after the session if she was thinking of her birth parents, and she agreed. We acknowledged her feelings and wondered at the effect of the therapy. Connie and I agree that she tends to show more need of attention after these sessions. She would cuddle around us more and would like us to spend time with her.

Before going to bed, she asked me about the baby book again. When we got to the birth parents' page, she also told us about the same feelings of loss. I could tell from her look that she was feeling really sad. Quick as a wink, a thought came to my mind, that I should grieve with her. I told her that we tried to contact her birth parents before but heard no reply, and it is alright for her to miss her birth parents. I encouraged Abby that we would love her dearly in any case. Then she bid farewell to her birth parents and we prayed for them. I checked up with her again and she told us that she is feeling happier. Connie and I are glad that her sense of loss can be addressed.

We had thought of many ways to talk about adoption with Abby, but this therapeutic experience really has a better and deeper impact on Abby. We're glad that she can deal with her grief this early. We have never imagined that she could express her emotions that particular before. Both Connie and I know that such emotions may haunt her again at different stages of life. But we also pray that we can walk along this journey with her with God's love and grace. We are honored to be Abby's parents.

Connie and I believe that these sound therapy may really benefit families, especially adoptive families in Hong Kong. But more importantly, we think these families also need support to debrief with their children effectively. May our experience be a good reference.

It's been a relaxing week before the start of the intensive Greek coming next week. I had a good break to read, sleep, and spend time with Connie and Abby. Looking forward to July as my parents are coming from Toronto to stay with us for a month. ^_^

A fun visit at Birth and Beyond midwifery service

Connie and I really appreciate the personal care of midwifery service. They are professionaly trained and are much different than the traditional impression of midwives in ancient Chinese society. With their education and experience, they show great support to the inexperience couples going through the maternity process. Connie and I feel really blessed and thankful for having them to help us better prepare for the pregnancy.

Now Abby found it interesting for each visit for she can help out measuring and checking the baby. Abby would pick up the stethoscope and listen to the baby's heartbeat. She would also pick up the measuring tape and help finding out the size of the womb. Abby has the potential of becoming a wonderful nurse! ^_^


There was once when we first met one of the midwives, Saraswathi Vedam, she laid her hands on Connie's tummy and felt the position of the baby. She then drew on Connie's tummy to describe how the baby is positioning. Not only Abby found it very interesting, I felt really amazing too!!

We'll keep having visits before Connie's due date. From these visits and a prenatal class that we had, my sense of "ownership" in this pregancy has grown more because all the information helps me to better visualize the upcoming events. I hope I won't be panic when Connie's labor pain begins. ^_^

近況點滴

我雖然已完成這學年的課程，卻又剛開始了暑期密集式課程。上兩星期的課程是從電影的情節、美學、及表達技巧去探討神學的應用。我看了不少黑白片（老師認為是電影的經典時代）。我發現原來從前我認為是搞笑的Charlie Chaplin，他的電影其實是十分有意思及令人感動的，而且故事的人物情節對人性的描寫有深入的反思！真心推介！對自己來說，今年最寶貴的領受是self identity的更新，在聖經中更體會耶穌的愛及接納。以前常以為自己的生活模式是多做一點事去取悅及滿足神（例如基督徒講的讀聖經「靈修」），原來不自覺意識裡很想靠doing去獲得神的認同，這種態度竟是來自混淆的自我形像。然而，這年的體會讓自己發現不用以這些工夫來作為取悅及滿足神的方法，even just as I am，我是耶穌所愛的門徒，真正的認識being，讓我可以看待與神的關係來得更relational。我感謝耶穌的厚愛，我願更愛祂，更認識祂。

另外，其中一科給予我對友情有新的反省。有時候我發現自己不甚懂得（不如說甚少去）關心身邊的人。我其實很想作個relational（包含親情、友情…等）的人。我未至於會利用友情來為自己尋好處，但確實不懂很持久的關心care身邊的人。有時我是很羨慕Connie，因她頗能維繫認識多年的好朋友，她不用結交很多朋友，卻有著深摯的友愛。我渴望能更committed去珍惜身邊的情誼，雖然生活的習慣未必會立時朝夕大變，但我的心態有改變，期待日後可以與大家繼續有多些深入的分享。

Connie身孕踏入第三十周，她較早時腰骨容易因疲倦而感到痛楚，在多些留在家中休息後，她身體現在比較早時好多了。小寶寶預期在八月二十日出生，而我們也開始了上產前預備班。Connie一直也有積極看書及為小寶寶的出生去作準備；相反，我在心理上仍覺很抽離。產前預備班的確幫助我去更仔細的去與Connie配合。做爸爸的學習要重新開始！

Abby在溫哥華的生活是頗開心的。雖然體重仍是只有20磅，完全不及同齡的標準，講說話的表達亦很有限，但她仍然一天一天慢慢長大。最近她第一次自己洗澡了！Abby在較早時已懂自己到衣櫥拿衣服及開水自己沖洗。有一晚，她先拿了衣服，然後解衣、爬進浴缸後開水沖洗，我們見她自己解衣後便稱讚她主動，看著她可以培養自我照顧的習慣，我們心感高興！我希望在暑假可以有多些親子時間陪她起玩耍及學習。

在這裡，我們對文化及語言上的衝擊已經適應下來，只是現在生活所需費用比起初的預算大，而當初預備的費用相信會在第二學年完結時便會花完。近來很大的掙扎是來自幾個的可能性：（一）賣去在港的物業以完成餘下兩年的學業；還是（二）只完成文憑的課程，回港後再以部分時間修讀？這些考慮包含了很多關乎召命、對上帝供應的信心、安全感、及家人需要等的反思。若然自己往後的服務對象是小朋友，以從事教育工作去回應召命，那我有否這需要一定要在這裡完成MDiv program嗎？但其實在這裡的學習又確實是十分有意思，要更理解聖經及信仰便要花更多的時間去學習。我想更認識我的上帝！我想更懂得讀聖經，以至日後可以與大家分享上帝的話及祂賜的盼望。這裡的課程及教授都對我生命有很大的影響。若要花上更大的代價（主要是往後生活的安定），我會願意嗎？這一刻我的困惑大多是來自再一次面臨做大決擇時所產生的恐懼，不知道怎樣去理解前路及回應愛我的主。Connie一直的聆聽及支持是令我十分感動的。在此亦願意向大家分享內心的掙扎，渴望大家顧念我們一家的前路。

為了幾個家庭傷痛 Grieving for a few families

近日正留意著兩宗意外的發展，一直記掛著當中傷痛的心靈。

一宗是較早前年初在落馬洲 釀成六人死亡的交通意外。司機因醉酒，導致他駕駛的中型貨車與對線的士相撞，釀成慘劇。六位受害人都是有家庭的父親，而且是家中重要的經濟支柱。這次人為的意外為這些家庭帶來無比的傷痛；將近的父親節亦會再一次勾起他們的傷痛。

最令我痛苦的卻是當我把自己代入肇事司機的角色中，我真會感到萬分懊悔；很想補救及得到寬恕。報導的片段很觸動我—他曾在提訊後步出法院，向庭外示威的死者家屬下跪道歉：「對唔住，我害咗六個家庭，好後悔，我好錯。」面對被告突如其來跪地道歉，六名死者的十多名親屬卻未為所動，更冷言不接受被告道歉，一名男家屬怒斥「六個家庭支拄無咗呀！個個無晒老豆，無咗仔呀，你今時今日跪係度做咩啫，冇意思㗎！」而另一女死者家屬亦拒絕被告道歉說：「你賠番個大哥畀我就接受（道歉）！」死者馮志偉的叔叔馮建成，事發當日向特首曾蔭權下跪請求重罰肇事司機。「為什麼司法制度能夠容忍這種司機？特首說盡快跟進，究竟有無檢討刑罰是否足夠？我們幾家人，每次過堂，個心都好像被剁了一下！你知不知有多難受？對不起有什麼用！」馮直言﹕「這是個心理關口，無可能接受道歉，無可能原諒！如果法庭重判，他坐完監，履行完自己應得的懲罰，面壁思過，重新做人，再來跟我道歉！到時，恨已消了，我就考慮原諒！難道這不公平嗎？」

換了我是被告，面對著一班死者家屬，我會很內咎、沮喪，覺得做什麼也不能彌補過錯。被告羅少權坦言早料到會被痛罵。「我本身是做錯了！他們指摘我，我怎麼彌補？是不是一句對不起就算數？如果我是死者家屬，我也不能接受！」他說﹕「我自己寫了封信，想寄出去給6家人，但我想作用不大，反而害到他們心情難過，我自己做錯，想幫他們那邊，也沒能力去幫，錯就錯了，怪就要讓他們怪。」

這案件仍在審訊中。在最近的一次耹訊，約20多人的死者家屬一如往常到庭聽審，他們於粉嶺法庭門外拉起橫額，部分人得悉被告獲准保釋後，表現得相當不滿，直指「誤殺竟然可以保釋，不是幾多錢的問題，根本不應批准保釋！」當被告離開法庭時，眾家屬尾隨高呼「認着他啊，他就是殺人兇手，後面有6個人永遠跟着你！」被告未有停下，只管繼續低頭步行離開。過去幾個月來，被告聲稱晚晚受良心譴責睡不着，「只好給死者燒香，在廟宇裏面做自己應分的事……飲酒，我講也沒用，希望戒了它。」車禍後他開始失業，「開飯都成問題，今月未交租，唯有打散工，搬貨。」他有個7歲女兒跟妻子住在內地，「全香港最大新聞就是我，不想給女兒知……」

當我代入被告，容許我說我心裡很同情他。從眾家屬在法庭外對被告的控訴可見意外帶來很深的憤怒。若我是被告，沒想是被寬恕原諒，我連相信透過受罰補償的方法也感到渺茫。錯是錯了，但我仍盼望被告身邊能有人願意陪他同行，面對後果與責任。

這誤殺意外令我想起聖經中神為誤殺的也設立逃城安置這些人。期待對這些經文有更深的了解。對罪帶來的consequences and brokenness, God cares.

另一宗是前兩天有女工被鐵閘壓死的意外：
慘遭二百磅鐵閘壓死的慈母林中偉，生前有一個夢，盼兒女學業有成，一家人環遊世界，但如今美夢成空，子女愁對本周日的母親節及十餘日後的亡母誕辰，在台灣讀大學的二十一歲長女，事發當天趕回港，昨日攙扶哭成淚人的父親四處奔波辦理母親後事，怒指家中經濟已陷困境，殮葬成疑，有關部門仍是「光說不做」。「明日是我生日，過兩日是母親節，十九日又是母親生日，每年五月原都是一家人最歡樂的日子，可是今年五月沒有母親，不知怎樣過？」二十一歲劉妙玲是林中偉的長女，前日從台灣返港後趕到紅磡事故現場，看到平日硬朗的父親失去妻子，滿眼淚痕，她知道目前要強忍悲慟，擔負起家庭的重責。丈夫說：「我一定會追究……，發現鐵閘有問題，無人處理，今次只係我太太唔好彩。」長女妙玲硬咽說：「媽咪在我們心目中好重要，這件事對我們衝擊很大。」兩父女語畢都泣不成聲。劉妙玲在台灣高雄輔英科技大學 讀護理系一年級，十六歲的弟弟是應屆會考生，十歲的三妹讀小五，僅六歲幼妹讀小一，妙玲提起自己一家曾經是快樂溫馨的家庭時，倍感悲傷。年僅六歲幼女未懂事，以為母親去天堂旅行，每日為慈母祈禱，又寫信叫她早日回來，妙玲和二弟聞言頓感哀傷，不敢哭出來，還要安慰妹妹，但是，姊弟對自己前途，則茫然不知該怎辦？



當我知道死者丈夫從事與鐵閘相關的行業時更覺傷痛，代入他去想時更會因自己的專業知識而更覺太太受害的可憐與無奈。

每逢佳節倍思親。我能體會因這兩件意外這些家庭所背負著的沉痛，我很渴望他們身邊有人在他們旁邊與他們同哭、同分擔這份悲痛grief，令當前的路也能明朗化。願他們終能得到安慰。

2 important mentors that shape my life at Regent

These two are my professors at Regent--Darrell Johnson and Rikk Watts. They both inspire me in many ways in my first year of study. I am so impressed by their love to Jesus, which inspire me to know our Lord Jesus more personally, with a deeper conviction.

My first encounter with Darrell was during the orientation. While I was overwhelmed by the culture shock and unforeseen reality, God used Darrell to speak into my heart. (see this previous post) The benediction he proclaimed in the chapel is still vividly pictured in my mind. Darrell has a caring pastoral heart that he's like a spiritual father to me. I only had a course with him this year, on the soul of ministry. From the lectures, I start to recognize signals given by my body, allowing me to pay attention to the needs physically and spiritually. I am also "aware" of my identity, that I can also be Jesus' beloved disciple. To me, it is a profound experience. Rather than a deep yearning of seeking recognition and affirmation (from God or others), I am now at ease for I know that I'm loved and accepted by God. In the future, I really wish to have more of Darrell's lectures (especially on preaching and pastorla care) if God wills.

Rikk is my professor of the New Testament Foundation course. Rikk impressed me with his passion to Jesus. I am always touched when he talks about Jesus. Rikk is a great scholar and he enlightens me especailly the way to read Scriptures and the Gospels with a historical aspect. I now notice that it's very important to have a proper worldview in order to understand the Scriptures. What was it like to Jews and Romans in the 1st century? What were their concerns? How did Jesus spoke to them? I find it very fruitful to be in Rikk's lectures. I am also inspired by his saying that it would be great to preach something about Jesus in every sermon. I hope I can also help others to know about Jesus in my teachings/sermons. I shall miss his exegesis class (how to interpret/read the bible) next year, but hopefully I can take other courses with him in the future.

I can see their love to Jesus in their words and deeds and I'm deeply touched. I really wish to be like them one day, having the same passion to witness/share about Jesus to others.

Post-Exam Days

All of my exams are over! My first year at Regent is "officially" over! Thank God for such a wonderful year. I really like to share with you some of my reflections later for I need a while to write them up.

It's been quite busy after the exams. Busy with settling different matters in HK and schedules for spring/summer here. I'm going to work at Regent as an AV technician, recording/working on the sound system for chapel and evening lectures. I also have an opportunity to learn about counselling and case study with a clinical psychologist. This summer, I'll take 2 courses: Reading film - A theological Approach; and Biblical Greek. Both are very interesting to me. We'll see how the courses go!! ^_^

We've bought a secondhand van this week! It's a 2002 Kia Sedona, with 56000km mileage. It's fully loaded with special features and it comes with a deal of $5400.

This buying experience has quite an impact on me. We saw this van on the well-known free classifying/advertising website: Craigslist. I notice that buying a second-hand car actually does involve a large sum of money. I have a fear of making wrong decisions in transactions since I always have bad experiences. I just don't know if I would get cheated this time. Since I've gone through quite a few bad experiences before, I now slowly develop a mutual understanding with Connie that all the important decisions I made should concur with her comments. Connie's opinions and suggestions are really helpful and I know my ideas can be better filtered/improved out from her critical questioning character. With her full support this time, I'm happy to make this deal. I thank God for this great buy opportunity. When I was driving it home today, I was so thankful because I just love the new driving experience. May this van be a great help to those who need transportation.

奇人奇技--Abby invents a new cell phone!!

Check out Abby's new cell phone! ^_^

AbbyMommy will later post a video showing how Abby talks using this cell phone.

p.s. I can never have such flexibility!!! 甘拜下風!! ^_^

Lost and Found

I found my long-lost wedding ring on the desk today!!! ^_^ Hurray!!
I know it's at home somewhere since I usually have it placed on the desk with my keys. But it's been out of sight for quite a while. I thought it must have been Abby who played with it and misplaced it somewhere. I told Connie about the lost and she said lightly that it would be an opportunity to buy new rings for us. There were moments that I felt so regretful for losing it and I really really hoped that it could be found. Today I just found it in the stack of erected bibles. I'm RELIEVED now and I should put it at a more secure place so that I won't lose it again. ^_^

Servant vs Helper -- a sharing from a "master"

The recent article written by HK writer and columnist Chip Tsao (陶傑) has stirred an uproar from the Filipinos. In his article, "The War at Home", published in an online magazine, "Nation of servants" was used to mock the Filipinos in their dispute with the Chinese over the sovereignty on the Spratly Islands (南沙群島). Some Filipinos were greatly offended as they felt his words racist, discriminating, and demeaning to Filipino domestic workers in HK. Such descriptions has insulted the Filipinos and the columnist has recently apologized (in Spanish!?) during a radio broadcast programme.

Indeed, disputes among Filipinos and Chinese often really takes place at homes. Have you heard stories of domestic helpers badly treated by their employers? How they have been "used" for long hours and being cheated and humiliated in many ways. I know such stories are frequently told among the domestic helpers as they gather together on their days-off. On the contrary, stories of lazy or cunning helpers cheating their masters have also been told among employers. How these helpers crossed their lines and abused their employer's properties when the employers are not at home. Sadly, I have to admit that black sheep in both groups have brought hatred and distrust in the community. However, I start to realize the crux of the problem: a relational personhood is reduced into a functional object.

I used to call people who serve at homes as "servants". That was the only title I learned as a kid. Later I became a "master", but I have learned a better word to repect them--"domestic helper", or simply "helper". One may ask what's the difference in their nature of work besides a change of "titles"? My answer: Not much, but the ATTITUDES in both "masters" and "helpers" would be different--about Dignity and Respect, a key to restore a relational personhood among us.

Connie and I had Gee to help us when we adopted Abby. This experience of having a helper in our family was wonderful. I enjoy having a clean house all the time, especially when Abby made a mess and was later cleaned by Gee. I enjoy the yummy Chinese and Filipino food Gee cooked for us. Most important of all, I enjoy our mutual trust in our communication. And I'm sure Gee would feel the same.

From this experience, I've jogged down something I did as a "master"--my beliefs and some concrete ideas:

First thing first: Be relational

I think our first day is very crucial in building a trusting relationship. **on the first night of Gee's arrival, we had a 'family meeting'. It's like a briefing session....to let my helper know the expectations and to let her know that we trust her. I asked her to be genuine and sincere to us as our relationship is greatly built on trust. Since she's also a Christian, I shared with her a bible passage from Colossians 3:22-25 to encourage her to serve faithfully. (Note, in fact, in the context of the bible, it was about the relationship of slaves and masters. But I focused on the principles)****More importantly, I shared with her the following verse on 4:1....that being a master, I promise to treat her justly and fairly...that I would keep a good communication with her and being frank, and I would pay her monthly punctually as my duty.

I asked her to trust us and tell us if there's any needs, ESPECIALLY financially. I asked her NOT to borrow any money from others. Instead of asking others, ASK US. During her employment, Gee did ask us for some money due to family emergency....we lended her money but we also made a plan to work it out (pay back $500 each month from her salary)

Since her arrival, there're lots for us to adjust....we try to cope with a "stranger" living with us. Eating together did not cause us much uneasiness, although personal space may seem to be reduced. But we thank God for building our relationships through dining together. We also made the time to share and pray for each other. We know that it's a great opportunity to know about her and her family back in the Philippines. She would tell us her fear and worries as she faced family and financial issues. It's a good opportunity that we can pray and support each other. So we committed one night weekly some time after dinner to pray. Even though she prayed for us in Tagalong, we felt blessed by God as we serve the same master. It's something interesting to learn how to be a "boss" and treat Gee as my sister in Christ at the same time. ^_^ We had a mutual trust and we had a happy term of service for almost 2 years until I moved to Vancouver. Before the termination of our contract, God has also helped us to prepare the next employer for Gee. I'm glad for her.

Some TECHNICAL CONSIDERATIONS:

Adjustment:
I think even experienced helper needs to adjust to a new environment, so I think it's worth to do a bit of training on the first week of her arrival....to let her understand your style and routines. I remember we took Gee to the peak in her first month in HK. I like the idea of bringing her out for a short trip to broaden her views and understanding about our place, people and culture.

Food and Shopping:

I made a list of "things to buy" for daily use. At the beginning, I took my domestic helper to different stalls in the market and show her where I want her to buy things. e.g. I usually designated her to a specific veggie stall and I'd ask the shopkeeper to help sign the note. After a few days, I can just write down things to buy (in Chinese, say 1 catty Choi Sum) according to the stall # (say veggie), then she'd go to the stall and the shopkeeper would give her what I wrote.

Basically it's me who decided what to eat and what to cook....that may be different than some household that the helper would decide on what to cook instead. At the back of the shopping list, I would write down what I want to eat for dinner (or for the following few days)...then I put down the items that were needed on the front.

Gee slowly learns to cook Chinese food well according to our prefrence. She's a really good cook.

Routines:

Set up a tentative schedule for the chores to be done each day. I think it's reasonable enough to ask Gee vacuum the floor once a week (in addition to her wiping of the floor with static paper every day) She could get most things done by the end of the day. After dinner, I'm glad to set out the rest of the evening as rest time for her.

Work and Rest

On holiday issues, we talked and Connie and I made sure that Gee could go to church on Sundays. We tried to free her from work on that day...even at night. There were times that we had some dishes in the sink on Sunday nights and she wanted to wash them for us. I asked her to let me do it later 'cause I think it's my responsibility on Sunday and not to take advantage of her.

Salary Payment Record:

I printed out 2 copies, one for me and one for my helper. Just make sure we sign both copies for record.

Appreciation:

I found an interesting article responding to the current issue(link). The writer thanked the many domestic helpers in HK. At the end of her article, the write wrote down something very profounding:

外傭為了生計，拋低了自己的家庭，離鄉別井，照顧別人的丈夫和子女。每次想到菲律賓的孩子，我便因此感到心酸。菲律賓是天主教國家，根據天主教教義，人類是天主的僕人。但與此同時，天主的兒子耶穌，釘十字架前，替門徒洗腳。因為愛，天主派子降世為人，由「主人」變成「僕人」，展現的其實是捨己和犧牲精神。

I find a $25-value phone card a wonderful gift to treat Gee. She could spend more time talking to her beloved husband and kids. Also I really the idea of taking Gee to breakfast on Saturday mornings. We would go to Fairwood and would enjoy meals together as a treat for the week's labor. I can still remember how enjoyable she looked when she ate her favorite fried noodles and fish fillet. Then we'd all go to do some grocery shopping together. It's a great memory for all of us.

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A fun weekend

Three things that made today a really wonderful day:

1. Engaging and fun time with the kids at church this morning, even though I lost my voice and ripped my pants afterwards. May the love of Jesus Christ always be in their hearts. Looking forward to work closely with Karpos team.

2. Playful time with Abby, and other familes from church. We really need these quality time to connect with one another.

3. Warm chat with APS colleagues through Skype. I'm so glad to hear from them. Thanks for their love and care to me, Connie and Abby.

I really need some good rests tonight and then start to work hard tomorrow. Still got 3 weeks before finishing this term. May God give me a healthy spiritual and physical being to complete it strong. ^_^

「粗言穢語與抗爭無關 立會應制止極端行為」-- I agree totally!!

I am really grateful for reading a just view from an editorial from MingPao today(see link), addressing to the "swearing issue" (see link) that is hotly debated in Hong Kong. I pray that order can be restored in the Legislative Council in Hong Kong.

A few nice quotes from the editors:
「...由於議會的有效運作正受到少數人的威脅，我們要求立法會盡快收緊議事規則，並要嚴格執行，以保障社會的最大利益。」

「...爭拗「何謂粗口」，只為轉移視線，企圖強詞奪理，為自己的敗行推卸責任。因此，議員千萬不要被梁國雄誤導，糾纏於粗口的定義。」

「...議員在立法會上有言論自由，但這權利不包括使用粗言穢語，或刻意破壞議事廳的正常運作。這是社會的共識。議員對社會事務不滿，絕對應該抗爭，可以在議會外發起社會行動，在議會內也可以向政府提出尖銳的批評，甚或提出動議譴責，但使用粗言穢語，只求「搏出位」的政治秀，跟「抗爭」根本風馬牛不相及，必須受到譴責及制止。」

Sadly, when I was listening to the phone-in programme of Fairchild Radio @AM1470, I heard comments from quite a lot of Chinese in Vancouver that actually support the rude way of expressing views. I am saddened to see the corruptions in these ways of accuse and violence. I pray for wisdom and righteousness in our leaders that they can be great examples for citizens.

The historical development of swearing is actually quite interesting and educational. I recall reading an article from Breakthrough magazine when I was a teenager that spoke of the origins and the social context of swearing. The writer not only identified the different levels of rudeness conveyed in the swearing, but also gave some psychological significance/impact to one who swears. It would be a wonderful teaching resource for kids/teens. I would really love to read this article and share with others again; however, it could now only be found in the library of Breakthrough Youth Village in Hong Kong. ~_~

Ultrasound Result--Caleb or Eliana?

Guess what's the gender of our little baby? Make a guess and keep reading... ^_^

(Note: This is the side view of our little baby...the head is on the right; the nose and mouth can be easily spotted; the tummy is on the left. The little arm can also be seen on the lower left.)

Before today, I couldn't 'feel' much about our baby. Connie has gone through a lot since December. From having nausea, loss of appetite, to feeling little tickles in her womb, everything was more 'concrete' to Connie. I'm glad that today I could 'see' our little one. Connie went into the examination room first for the operator had to do some measurement for our baby. Our little one was asleep during the ultrasound diagnosis, so the operator couldn't have a clear view of the neck. Connie was asked to do a few things to try waking our baby. It took quite a while at last that the operator finally could get the measurement done, but our little baby went BACK TO SLEEP!! Wow, just like his/her dad!!!

Then Abby and I were allowed to go in. I felt excited when I saw our baby in the monitor. We tried to tell Abby how to 'see'. However, she didn't seem to feel excited or interested about it. We viewed in birdseye view from the head and saw his/her brain. Then we switched to the side and saw the spine and body. We also saw the heart beating quickly like a speed pump. My heart echoed with the beating. We asked about the gender, and the operator said, "It's too early to find out."

My mind went blank by hearing her answer. What did she mean by too early? I was thinking why she refused to tell us. It's all about $$$$$$$. At the end of this check-up, the operator gave me a brochure advertising their 3D ultrasound imaging package. Through the 3D imaging, you can actually 'see' a clear view of your baby, just like a photo taken in the womb. Cost? from $99 to $199 CAD. For checking gender, it's $99!!!!! (I later found out that the ultrasound session in this package is a 10-minute 2D session only!!! That's exactly the SAME with what we're doing today) What a rip off!!! I asked the operator when would be the earliest time for checking the gender with 3D ultrasound package. She said "anytime"!!! So what she told me earlier that "it's too early..." was ALL LIES. I told the operator that I'm a student and I would not pay extra to join this fancy package. Nothing changed. I did not say much and then walked out of the clinlic with Connie. I wasn't able to react and give a good response/counterstrike. I'm angry about the way they do business. I'm really really disappointed (pissed off)!!!

Indeed, Connie and I talked on our way home. We both would really like to know the gender so that we can better prepare our minds and stuff for the newborn. But would we spend $99 to find out the gender? I don't know what I'd do yet. For the worst case, we'd find out upon delivery. Connie made a profound remark: "It's just like the case when we adopted Abby, we didn't know we're adopting a boy/girl until the matching was done for us." I felt more relieved.

This image of our baby often comes to my mind as a reminder that our baby is growing well in Connie's womb. I was giving thanks to God in the prayer before dinner for giving such a wonderful gift to us. If the baby is a 'he', this would be a great blessing for this has been what Connie and I long expected. He would be called "Caleb", my favourite Bible character who dedicatedly and faithfully walked in God's favor. If the baby is a 'she', we would also be grateful (maybe even more than having Caleb) since raising a girl would be so much sweeter!! ^_^ She would be called "Eliana", a Hebrew name meaning God's gift. She can also get to wear clothes passed down from Abby!! This saves quite a lot!! ^_^

Would our little one be Caleb or Eliana? Anyway, our story will be continued...may we always be thankful to God's abundant providence.

Abby sighs...

Guess what Abby is trying to tell you......

Abby is quite friendly and she likes to greet people she meets. However, there were occasions that she greeted some kids in her pre-school class / Sunday School class but she got no response from them. This is the look she would give back to me or Connie (or actually I believe she is telling herself) with an expression in Chinese: "Mo...(means "nothing")"

What would you say to her? I tried to encourage her not to be discouraged and told her that she might need to speak louder or walk closer to let the other kid see her. In fact, I understand that kids at their age may not know how to respond to such way of greetings. Well, I hope that Abby can continue to show great hospitality. ^_^

We're back!!

We're back!! The renovation of the basement is finished and we're back to our home. It's interesting that all these 'big events' usually take place during my reading weeks. I can appreciate that since I could spend the time to adjust and set things clear. However, my reading week is almost over but I haven't got much work done. How was the time spent?

1. Connie and I spent the first few days 're-organize' our home. Yes, it took us a few days to do so. Surprisingly, I now realize that I need some time to re-adjust to this familiar setting...weird. But I find the study room very tidy and cozy. ^_^ Hope I can focus to do my work better.

2. I've renewed my Canadian passport. Connie, Abby and I took a half-day trip to the downtown area to get all the documents done. We explored a bit more of the downtown of Vancouver.

3. We spent a nice afternoon with our community group from Regent...at the POOL. Connie, Abby and I didn't bring our swim suits and we just planned to have lunch with our group members after they swam. But when we got there, we then regretted for not bringing our swim suits--There is an exciting water slide there and the pool setting is quite family-oriented. We could've had lots of fun with Abby and others there. Well, we'll surely go there again.

4. We had our haircut!!! Thanks to my schoolmate, Tomommi, who is a professional hairdresser from Japan. We have a new fresh look after her awesome service!! I especially like Connie's new look. She looks much younger!! ^_^ Abby looks cute in her short hair. Even I look more handsome, eh? ^_^

I tried to study, but not much was done. Yet I still have a lot of readings and assignments unfinished!!!! There are 3 more weeks to go before my final examination. I pray that God sustains my spiritual and physical well-being that I can finish my first year strong.

Moments to treasure about

Guess what's the treasure that these men are digging for?

Sewage pipe!!
Recently, the sewage pipe in our house is found to be "invaded" by tree roots. The result from that was devastating--clogging the water system of the house, and sewage flooded the basement where we are living. The flood contaminated the carpet and the base of the dry walls, cultivating toxic mold that would harm our health. With the swift decision made by our landlord, we now move up one level and live with our landlord's family.

It's been a week, and Abby, Connie and I got adjusted to the new setting quickly. I think little Abby is the happiest one for she can play with her little friend (the daughter of our landlord) all the time now. We've a closer encounter with our landlord's family. We sometimes cook and eat together. We share the living room. I feel that we're like camping together, renting a comfortable lodge. I'm grateful that we can care for each other despite of our differences in daily routines. We're thankful for the thoughtful considerations from our landlord's family. I pray that our presence would not bring too much inconvenience to them.

With the re-installation of the sewage pipes, dry wall, tiles and carpet, the whole restoration project will take about a month. Meanwhile, our staying with our landlord would be a treasurable memory for us.

Other updates: The toughest moment in my study is coming--I've a take home midterm exam to write for my New Testament course. There are more than 600 pages of textbook to read but I only got 3/5 of it done.....really need more efficiency and memory to absorb the content. Besides, two 2000-word papers are due soon, with another Hebrew test coming......life is just full of challenges!!!

Can you imagine me cooking in a restaurant?

Wanna try this "Hai Nam" style chicken? I start working part-time at a Malaysian food restaurant opened by my friends. I work only 4 hours a week (on Sat from 11:30-3:30) I am learning a lot here, working in the kitchen on my first day: preparing sauce, side-dish, beef curry, even preparing the boneless "Hai Nam" style chicken. Today I had my 2nd day and I'm getting more acquainted with the work. I think the experience is so great! There's still a lot to learn......Safety and hygiene are also something great to learn in a commercial setting......I just love the kitchen with all the steelware and counter-top. ^_^ I hope to get more familiar in chopping the chicken and make it look nicer on the dish. The boneless chicken in this picture was prepared by me. Are you tempted to try? Sorry, it'll be in my stomach soon!!! ^_^

1st blog in 2009!

This is the 1st blog in 2009!

It's been quite foggy this month. I was amazed at the scenery under heavy fog. My first impression is: Silent Hill (a horror genre video game which the story began on a foggy setting) The photo shown cannot represent the worst scenario. The visibility in the worst case was about 10m max. A foggy night scene is even more interesting. People and trees behind the backdrop of streetlights were blurred, adding a sense of mystery.

I was amazed on one foggy afternoon when I saw a spectacular scene. On a typical day, I can see the hilly Northern Vancouver from my place. That day I saw that houses at the lower part of Northern Vancouver were covered by a thick layer of greyish fog However, houses on the hilly part were exposed to the sun. It was a big difference. Later on that day, as I drove to Richmond, I saw the changes myself. It was sunny and bright with blue sky overhead from my place, then became foggy and pale as I continued to drive close to the seaside. What a big difference made within such short time and space!!

Connie made a thoughtful reflection from these foggy experience: Sometimes in life the road is not clear. One has to walk on the path with faith in order to see more to reveal. This is a good reminder to our stay in Vancouver in the following years.